“How to Develop Positive Self-Esteem in Teens”

Dr. Tim Elmore of Growing Leaders in Atlanta, Georgia is my go-to resource for all issues related to students from 12 to 20.  Dr. Elmore really understands this generation well; he is honest about their shortcomings, without being critical; and he has positive solutions for the challenges they face.

Today — July 3, 2019 — Dr. Elmore blogged on a very important topic which should be of profound interest to parents and teachers of Generation Z.   I heartily call your attention to that piece of writing.  If you are interested in the article, please click on the link below:

“How to Develop Positive Self-Esteem in Teens”



“Created Uniquely by Christ to Serve”

On Saturday, June 15, 2019, several men from Greenville, Carolina’s Rock Hill Baptist Church and Eastside Presbyterian Church gathered at Carolina Fine Foods Restaurant in Simpsonville to celebrate Father’s Day weekend, to engage in fellowship, and to be exhorted by Johnny Price. If you would like to read my summary of Johnny’s message, “Created Uniquely by Christ to Serve,” please read on. . .

“Created Uniquely by Christ to Serve”
By Johnny Price
Gathering of Rock Hill Baptist and Eastside Presbyterian Men
Carolina Fine Foods Restaurant
Saturday, June 15, 2019

Summary of and Editorializing by Bob Stouffer (All errors are mine alone.)

Thank you for these opportunities in the past few months.

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The Bible is not unlike the body. Every part is important, but not every part is as important as others. Still, some parts are essential to human life.

What one system can be removed from the body, and the person will not die? The reproductive system. The reason? That system is not there for the person, but for other people.

Some parts of your body are essential for lifeSTYLE. Some parts are not necessary for life but for lifestyle — to do what you are created to do as you were created by God.

Again, not all of the parts of them Bible are as necessary as others. We should not discount Leviticus! But, if it were missing, we could go on.

And there are truths that must not be removed. The life of the Bible would be removed. It would be nothing more than an impressive self-help book.

We must experience life abundantly as God intended.

One essential passage is Philippians 2:3-11.

3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. 5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,[a] 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,[b] 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant,[c] being born in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. 9 Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, 10 so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, 11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. (English Standard Version)


[a] Philippians 2:5 Or which was also in Christ Jesus
[b] Philippians 2:6 Or a thing to be held on to for advantage
[c] Philippians 2:7 Or slave (for the contextual rendering of the Greek word doulos, see Preface)

Many of you remember Peter, Paul, and Mary, a singing trio. One of the men referred to Life, a popular magazine at the time. He followed a progression from Life to People to Self. And, finally, Me, with pages of aluminum foil. We have Me magazine today — Facebook! I publish the impression I want you to believe about me.

Our whole culture encourages us to be self-centered.

G.K. Chesterton one said that he does not come into a room with the thought that he is a king with a dozen servants; he comes into a room believing he is a servant with a dozen kings.

Christians are not doormats, and we are servants.

How many accounts in the Bible of Jesus’ birth?

Matthew, Luke, John 1, Revelation 12, Philippians 2.

We look behind the curtain in Philippians 2. Jesus emptied Himself. We are to have this same attitude. We are to think like Jesus thinks. If we think like Jesus, we will act like Jesus.

We are to be servants. We come to serve, not to be served. (Mark 10:45)

I am so impressed by the priority the Bible gives to the mind, our thinking, our education. We must have an attitude like Christ Jesus. We do what we do because we think what we think. If we change our thinking, we will change how we act. We are to be transformed by “the renewing of our minds” (Romans 12:2).

Jesus has every right to maintain His comfort and not to be inconvenienced. But He was a servant. He gave up His rights.

I am called to help meet your needs, not your wants. I discern your needs, based on biblical truth. I may say no. We are called to be bond-servants who voluntarily give up our “rights.”

Jesus became obedient to the point of even death on the cross.

God says, “Humble yourselves.” He doesn’t say, “I will humble you. He loves you enough to humble you. You can choose to do so yourself, or He will certainly step in an humble you, which can be so much more painful.

“Not my will, but Yours, Lord” should be our attitude. Obedience. To the point of death. Death to self. Crucified with Christ. No longer we who live, but Christ who lives within us. Take up your cross.

THEREFORE, God exalted Him!

One day, everyone will acknowledge who Jesus is, including those who choke on the words.

James 4:10 reads, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.” (ESV)

1 Peter 5:6 reads, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you. . . .” (ESV)

Jesus will be recognized for who He is.

To the extent of humility and obedience, we will be the unique individuals God created us to be. We are divine originals. Such is God’s intention. There’s no one quite like you, and that’s a good thing.

The bottom line?

Fathers are called to be servants. Yours must be a lifetime of servanthood, a thrilling unfolding of who we were created uniquely to be in Christ.

“Effective (and Not So Effective) Parenting Styles”

Far be it for me to judge any parent.  I have made my share of mistakes — some very grievous — over the years.  And I believe many, many parents are doing an effective job of responding to their God-given roles of educating and discipling their children.

I do agree with Dr. Tim Elmore — that a growing percentage of parents are working hard to “prepare the road for the child,” rather than “preparing the child for the road.”  Life is full of tough stuff.  We cannot protect our children and grandchildren from every heartache, trouble, conflict, and problem.

We can always benefit from honest self-examination of our grand/parenting styles.  Perhaps one or more of the following articles would be helpful to you has you parent your children or partner with your children to grandparent your grandchildren:

“6 Words You Should Say Today”

Huffington Post

September 11, 2013


“Why Parents’ Priorities Are Hurting Students”

Growing Leaders

September 27, 2016


“10 Things You Should Know About Teenagers”


March 27, 2017


“How Adults Reduce Grit in Kids”

Growing Leaders

June 29, 2017


“8 Tips to Help You Disciple Your Kids”

The Gospel Project

August 3, 2017

8 Tips to Help You Disciple Your Kids

“How Family Meals Impact SAT Scores”

Growing Leaders

December 6, 2017


“The Best Way to Help Kids with Homework”

Growing Leaders

May 29, 2018


“‘Helicopter Parenting’ Linked to Behavioural Problems in Children, Finds Research”

The Independent

June 19, 2018


“How Being a ‘Lawn Mower’ Parent Will Only Set Your Kid Up for Failure”

Fox News

September 22, 2018


“How to Enjoy Watching Your Teens Play Sports”

Growing Leaders

October 16, 2018


“Positive Discipline: Three Practical Strategies Parents Can Use”

Growing Leaders

November 8, 2018


“Is Your Home Centered on the Gospel or Your Kids?”


November 16, 2018

Is Your Home Centered on the Gospel or Your Kids?

“The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do for Your Kids”

Fox News

January 13, 2019


“Four Dangerous Parenting Styles Today”

Growing Leaders

March 19, 2019


“14 Skills Your Kids Should Have Before Moving Out”

Growing Leaders

April 30, 2019


“How to Read the Bible with Your Children”

I don’t know about you, but I have struggled to effectively present the Word of God to my children when they were growing up.  I have a second chance to do better with my five grandchildren.  Do you want some good advice, in this regard?

Check out the following two articles:

“How to Help Your Kids Get Excited About Reading the Bible”

By David Murray


September 24, 2017


“6 Tips for Reading the Bible with Your Kids”

By David Murray

September 25, 2017


“The Mental Health of Today’s Teenagers”

Stress, anxiety, depression, and suicide are on-the-rise with GenerationZ — today’s middle school and high school students, in particular.  In my humble opinion, the United States needs to invest HEAVILY in mental health services for all generations, but, especially, for today’s teenagers.  If this is a topic of interest to you, you may want to consider some or all of the following articles:

“Pediatricians Urged to Screen for Suicide Risks Among Teens”

USA Today

June 27, 2016


“Signs to Spot and Steps to Take to Prevent Suicide”

Growing Leaders

July 20, 2017


“Suicide Rate Hit 40-Year Peak Among Older Teen Girls in 2015”


August 3, 2017


“America’s Suicide Crisis: Dying for Lack of Hope”

BreakPoint Daily

August 14, 2017


“One Secret to Help Kids Control Emotions”

Growing Leaders

September 26, 2017


“If You Think You Understand Depression But You’ve Never Been Depressed, I Want to Share This Story with You”

Fox News

July 22, 2018


“‘Eighth Grade’ and the Horror of Being Unknown”

The Gospel Coalition

August 3, 2018

‘Eighth Grade’ and the Horror of Being Unknown

“Girls with Obesity Have Increased Risk of Depression”


August 10, 2018


“One Great Response to FOMO”

Growing Leaders

August 16, 2018


“More Kids Are Showing Up in ERs with Mental Health Crises”

NBC News

November 2, 2018


“The So-Called ‘Deaths of Despair’: Why Americans Are Dying Younger and Younger”

BreakPoint Daily

December 17, 2018



“Phones, Phones, Everywhere Phones!”

The smartphone is ubiquitous in 2019.  Parents are handing these landmines to their children earlier and earlier in life.  I am not against smartphones.  I use one daily.  But all parents should have a plan for how to help their children safely navigate the world of information which is accessed through these devices.  Some of the troubles of these phone has caused me to get serious about advising parents to buy flip phones for their kids!  That’s probably not realistic, but think about it!  Why does a student need a phone that accesses the internet when s/he already has a tablet, laptop, and/or tabletop computer?!

You may be interested in the following articles to help you successfully oversee the smartphone use of your children:

“The Flight from Conversation”

The New York Times

April 21, 2012

“How Much Time Do Parents Spend on Screens? As Much As Their Teens”


December 6, 2016


“Smartphones, Tablets and Weight Gain in Teens”


December 14, 2016


“Rescuing iGen: Teens Raised on Smartphones Need an Escape Plan”

BreakPoint Daily

August 22, 2017


“Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?

The Atlantic

August 3, 2017


“The Heavy Price Parents Pay When iPhones Become Babysitters”

Growing Leaders

November 14, 2017


“Smartphones Really Are Dangerous for Our Kids (They Put Them at Risk for Suicide and More”

Fox News

January 13, 2018


“Kids Are Less Addicted to Cellphones Than They Are Fearful of ‘Missing Out,” Expert Says”


February 19, 2018


“How Smartphones Are Causing Kids to Experience ‘Altered Childhoods’

Fox News

June 2, 2018


“Smartphones Are Killing Teenagers’ Memories, Study Says”

Fox News

July 25, 2018


“How to Handle Arguments with Kids About Phones”

Growing Leaders

June 27, 2018


“Smartphones Are Killing Teenagers’ Memories, Study Says”

Fox News

July 25, 2018


Heavy Screen Time May Cause Premature Changes in Brain Structure Among Kids: Study”

Tech Times

December 10, 2018


“The Rise of Teen Burner Phones and What to Do About Them”

Growing Leaders

May 22, 2019



“Social Media Is Anti-Social!”

What an oxymoron!  “Social media” is anything but “social” at time.  The sites are used for bullying and horrific abuses of our First Amendment right to free speech.  We “mask” ourselves in pristine “images” of our desired states, communicating anything but authentic selves.  Social media causes us to be, as one author has put it, “alone together.”

So what’s a parent to do about their children’s involvement with social media?

Perhaps the following articles would be helpful:

“New Report Details the Devastating Effects Social Media Is Having on Generation Z”

Growing Leaders

February 22, 2018


“Parent’s Guide to Social Media Use for Kids”

Growing Leaders

March 13, 2018


“How to Prevent a Negative Social Media Impact”

Growing Leaders

March 27, 2019